Dr. Lisa Templeton is now a contributing article writer for a magazine called Luminous Wisdom: SOPHIA with Sibella Publications. Her poignant, uplifting, and educational articles will be featured monthly from June 2019-May 2020.
See below for Dr. Lisa’s June, July, August, September and October 2019 publications!
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Be The Change
By Lisa M. Templeton, Ph.D.
Published in October 2019 Luminous Wisdom: SOPHIA
Be the change. That idea is stated more and more frequently and, in this article, I want to explore what that really means for each of us. In being the change, we must identify what it is we want to change and set our intentions. Then, we can work on being it. So what is it that you would like to change?
I have been thinking a lot about what change I want to see in the world. I find that the world needs more love, the world needs soul searchers and people who are willing to get uncomfortable to stand for peace and equality, for holistic living. The world needs more open hearts, vulnerability, and caring people; people who stop and offer compassion and care for the suffering of others. We need more victors, not victims.
I dream of a society full of those who share vulnerability, kindness, and generosity with less ego and fear of persecution or feeling weak. I want to live in a world that equally gives and receives with each other. The change I want to see is self-knowledge and ownership of behaviors with compassion. I want to see self-love and unconditional worth that is not contingent on how productive a person is; to see love in complete totality being reciprocated in the world.
Now with my intention set, I am present and fully aware of this energy moving through my body and heart. I can feel that this energy is truly the power of love. Love opens my heart, offers me compassion, shows me my worth, and cares for me. This love has always and will always exist all around us. It is never gone no matter what is happening.
When we engage with, give, and receive love within ourselves, we can be the change. Offer yourself compassion, openness, cautious mindful care, and kindness. Create reciprocity within yourself. Embody love in every moment you can. We always have a choice to align with a change from fear to love. That is what it means to be the change.
Since the change most of us want to see is more love, let’s start with giving and receiving more love. Are you receiving? Can you receive a little more? Are you giving? Can you give a little more? The more love we give, the more we receive and feel oneness with others. Consider what you are giving and receiving within yourself and how you are relating within. If we are to be the change, we must start by looking at our own inner relationships and dialogue within.
When we set our clear intentions and put this mindful present moment awareness into ourselves, the world over time begins to change. We are each driving this change, one moment at a time, one step at a time. May you be inspired to be the change you want to see in every moment of your life.
Be The Energy of Love
By Dr. Lisa Templeton, Ph.D.
Published in September 2019 Luminous Wisdom: SOPHIA
The feeling of love is a truly powerful force. We generally define love as an emotion, yet it runs so much deeper than that. Love is an energy created with our intentions, with our care, our affection, our kindness, compassion and appreciation for others. When I feel the emotion of love, it is calming; my heart swells and there is a sense of caring. When I am being the energy of love, I am connected, expanded, and living in more oneness. I experience love in my heart, body, spirit, and soul. I am greater than myself.
True love encompasses connection, worth, and respect for others, as well as for self. Love is reciprocal and grows as it is given away and received. This prevailing energy heals wounds, allows us to accomplish the impossible, cures diseases, eradicates division, and completely transforms our perspective.
Notice as you are reading this how love is filling you up, calling out to you to feel its presence. Stay aware of your body as love seeps into your being; lift yourself as high as your dearest loved one. Look around you at the beauty of love within all nature, music, and art. There is a warmth when our hearts are connected in love, whether it is sexually, spiritually, cognitively, or emotionally driven. Whenever we have arrived in the present moment, totally connected with all that is around us, there is love.
Where there is love, fear is not far behind. It can be difficult to stay open and vulnerable being the energy of love when there are so many negative aspects of the world including death, trauma, unknown and uncertain possibilities, as well as people who can be hurtful both physically and emotionally to others. Our first sense can be to protect with defensiveness and anger, to disconnect from love and join with fear.
The truth is that fear does not truly protect us; yet, we have been socialized to believe that it does. Kindness, love, and compassion are often seen as weak, whereas anger, hate, and a strong defense are perceived as somehow stronger. This is a lie. In our current world, fear only creates more anxiety and tension. It is not protecting anyone. We must choose love and live in that energy.
Being the energy of love does not mean that we have no caution and no awareness of the dangers around us. Fear is the first to point out the importance of being prepared. On the contrary, the power of love provides incredible responsiveness and protection, not through prepping, planning, and replaying a possible future, but through solid mindful awareness of the present moment and a deep resiliency. Fear leads to confusion, doubt, and hate, while being the energy of love offers profound truth of who we all really are.
Being The Whole
By Lisa Templeton, Ph.D.
Published in August 2019 Luminous Wisdom: SOPHIA
Reflecting within, I sense my light and all the shadows it casts. These shadows cannot exist without light and sometimes it appears that the lighter the light, the darker the dark. This paradigm exists within us all. I believe that our purpose is about understanding how to stand in both the darkness and the light that is within. Each side needs each other to be whole.
Many of my greatest difficulties in life have led to the most profound guidance and growth. I have struggled with infertility, finishing my education and obtaining my PhD, running a business, as well as pain and loss throughout life. Yet, through these dark times, I have found more light within myself.
Once I began to notice and shine my light, I inevitably saw more shadows. To observe this dark place felt foreign and uncomfortable. It was full of negative emotions. Yet, as I have continued to lean into the dark, I build more tolerance, compassion, and understanding of it. At times, I can feel greedy or be isolative and not want to interact with others. I have noticed thoughts comparing myself in negative ways with others or speaking negatively to myself. From anger to jealousy, my shadow is always there. Yet, this is the shadow of us all. This is part of our humanness that most don’t realize is shared by so many others.
As I work to integrate my light and dark, I have learned how they really complement each other. When I direct compassion toward my darkness, I realize why the dark was created in the first place – out of fear and separation. This part of me is not evil or wrong, it is fractured and trying to protect me. Of course, the darkness has a convoluted, irrational way of protecting.
This is where the light has much to teach. Our dark parts are afraid and isolated, in need of direction and rational thought. The ultimate protection is not fear, but love. Yet, fear can sometimes persuade me to move solely into the shadows. Gratefully, the light beckons me back with love. This is a process of balancing the light and dark that gets easier and more joyful with practice. As I practice, I feel more whole and integrated with myself. Try to hold gratitude for both sides without any self-judgment and offer compassion to yourself in each moment.
We cannot truly experience joy without pain. We cannot openly feel the expansiveness of love without having felt the constriction of fear. When I sit in the darkness of color and glow, I am illuminated. I am authentically myself. When I practice standing in the balance of the whole, I feel the true resiliency and power of connection within. Even in the midst of my shadow, I am engulfed in light; I am immersed in love. When I own my shadow and honor my light, the edges of my dark glow.
The Act of Being
By Lisa Templeton, Ph.D.
Published in July 2019 Luminous Wisdom: SOPHIA
To really work on acceptance, we must learn to just be. This is more than a mere slogan, it is a state of consciousness, a form of allowing, and a place of surrender. Being is about sitting in the energy of the moment, no matter what that moment offers. We must learn to sit in every moment we can. It is importance to develop tolerance in each moment. It’s why our species is called human beings, not human doings.
Still, we are living in a world that distracts and conditions us into doing, rather than just being. We can feel like we are caught in a whirlwind of human happenings in a busy world full of moments flying past. There are many people on their phones; looking up headlines, checking social media, etc., without taking much time to consider each moment that is surrounding them and how truly sacred each moment really is. Before we know it, another day is over and a new day of tasking is beginning again. We task and task and build excitement for the next time we can stop tasking and take a break, meanwhile forgetting the sacred aspect each moment offers us in getting there.
If we are only living around the doing, what does it really mean to be? To be is to actively dance with what is in front of you, no matter how bad the music. To be is to consciously focus our existence in the now and not fall into incessantly reviewing the past or conjuring scenarios of the future. To be is to surrender what you want to happen and receive what you are given. When we are here now, we are being.
One of the biggest obstacles in learning to be is conflict within ourselves leading to self-dislike. Who is there with you in every moment? It’s you of course! If you don’t like yourself, you will likely not enjoy each moment around you and will unconsciously do what you can to avoid it. Often times, we continue to plug away at tasks and get a lot “done” in order to get away from ourselves. Simultaneously, we become more disconnected from what it means to truly be ourselves, as we have forgotten how to be.
Take in this very moment right now. Can you sit and listen to what is really going on inside of your mind? Can you set your intent to be aware of whatever comes up for you in each moment? Our focus can be internal, noticing our emotions and thoughts, or it can be external, noticing the coolness of the air or the birds singing. To sit and listen to whatever music is playing is a good start at learning to be. We can’t truly work on letting anything be if we are not practicing the act of being.
Actively Letting It Be
By Lisa Templeton, Ph.D.
Published in June 2019 Luminous Wisdom: SOPHIA
To be active in letting it be means to practice. Life is a training ground for learning, although we often forget this. We are more at peace when we accept what is happening and are actively letting things be. Yet, what does that really mean exactly? How do we practice this?
Start with allowing yourself to be wherever you are, recognizing any resistance. To express resistance is an argument with reality that we will ultimately lose. Still, as humans, we reactively move into resistance in times of stress. Hence, letting it be is ultimately about identifying and acknowledging our resistance.
Whether it is resistance to an emotion, a thought, a traffic jam, a situation that didn’t go your way, or resistance to self-forgiveness from the past, we have to understand that resistance is there before we can let it go. Live in openness to what is. The more flexible we are, the more peace we experience. The more we flow with life.
We can’t let go of something of which we are not aware. Set your intent to notice what the energy of resistance feels like in your body so you can be more aware of it. For me, it can manifest as tension, irritability, disappointment, foreboding, and/or frustration. Sometimes, when I am feeling resistant, I feel heaviness in my heart or in my abdomen.
Once we recognize that we are resisting, we must then move into compassion. Our resistance is ultimately there as a form of protection. Unfortunately, it doesn’t really protect us, it only moves us away from peace. When actively letting it be, we notice the resistance, bring compassion to ourselves, and lean into the flow of e-motion.
Here, we move through life like waves on an ocean, staying mindful of our reactions and being as loving as possible. This now creates a response instead of a reaction. Ride each wave, each moment, with love. Stay loving, present, and aware of your actions and reactions with loving mindfulness. Keep breathing and offering yourself encouragement as you are continuing to practice in an active way. This creates active power.
Our actions play a huge role in actively letting it be. Choose positive thoughts and emotions. Be generous with others. Make statements that uplift yourself. Offer your smile to others and give light and love to everyone you meet. Be sure to seek out the beauty in the world. Nature is so grounding and amazing – we are living on a beautiful earth and life lives all around us, no matter where you are.
Set your intent to take time every day to slow your thoughts and consciously breathe. When you make an effort to actively change the quality of your being, the more peace and acceptance you create in and all around you. Drop the resistance, practice letting it be, and open your eyes to miracles.
Previous Article Publications by Dr. Lisa:
Musical Countertransference Experiences of Music Therapists: A phenomenological study, in The Arts in Psychotherapy 33 (2006), 208-217 under her maiden name, Lisa M. Dillard.
The Healing Power of Music is Inside You in PhenomenNews, October 2003, under her maiden name, Lisa M. Dillard.